Sometimes you have the best days. Your children cuddle in your bed in the morning; you have time to actually take your time getting ready, and are productive while having fun all day.
Then you get a phone call. A phone call that changes everything. You see, people come and go in our lives and we accept that. I found this quote that seems to sum it all up: “You want to come in my life, the door is open. You want to get out of my life, the door is open. Just one request, don’t stand in the door, you’re blocking the traffic.”
We have to live our lives as God wants us to; we need to live in the present and prepare for the future and not dwell in the past. We have people that we have said “goodbye” to and have accepted the fact that they will never be a part of our lives again. We have accepted what they have done in the past that has hurt us, never can again because we have said those “goodbyes.” Our grieving is over for the loss of them and we have moved on. “You will never find peace until you learn to finally let go of the hatred and hurt that lives in your heart.” Melchor Lim.
Then they call and ask if they can become a part of your life again. What are we supposed to think? God has finally given us the strength to move on, to accept the things we cannot change and we now have the wisdom to know the difference. (Serenity Prayer) But what are we supposed to do now? Do we open our doors again? Do we accept that they want to be part of our life?
As Christians the simple answer is “yes.” Yes, we let them into our lives and back into our hearts. We forgive them for what they have done and listen to their story, to their explanation. We teach through actions that we can forgive and be accepting. But as humans, it is hard. It is scary; it’s scary because we don’t know whether we will be hurt again or not. Is this for real? Or is there something more to this story?
So what is the next step? The only thing I can think of is to pray. Take time to talk to God to see what he has planned. Advice is only words lived by other people’s situations, advice can be great, but everyone situation is different. Everyone has their own path. It is when those paths are under construction that it gives us the most trouble.
I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
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